Oops…!!! Guilty

          He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. ~ Benjamin Franklin

I took a long breach after my last post and I have to admit that I did not truly have a great reason for doing so. The only excuse that I have is that I was always finding excuses. “I dont have the time right now” or “I cant find the correct topic” or the fav one being “I’ll post something when the time is right” But yea, none were good enough.
In other words, I was a victim of Procrastination.

But that wasn’t something unlike me. People who know me personally already know that I never really sound convincing when I try to give reasons to not do something. I was always a junky kind of person for a long time. I was also unhappy with a lot in life, unfulfilled in my relationships, Friends, work, circumstances. I always blamed other things when I did not find a good enough reason for doing or not doing something. Even when I lived all by myself, I always made excuses that I worked too hard. My room was as cluttered and dusty on the outside as I felt on the inside.These things are not necessarily true for all cluttered people, but there was a definite link for me.

But Procrastination is quite common and here’s why it starts.

We always think about starting something with the very best of intentions, but as the day draws nearer to when you are going to start this thing, the doubts and excuses start to come.

This may be just discomfort or doubts in your mind, or voiced to people – but it always has the same result, and that’s stopping you from starting what you set out to complete.
In my case, I was just over-thinking about what is the end result of doing it. I always questioned myself of the need of doing
the things I was thinking of and how or if it would even benefit or matter to me in the near future or was it just something I would regret wasting time on.

Procrastination kills many projects before they even get off the ground, and whether you realize it or not, this is usually what has stopped you getting organised in the past. I have had experiences when I have started or taken up a lot of hobbies and then never been able to do justice to what was offered to me. I spent days and weeks thinking about where I was heading to and it only seemed like a dead end. Instead of waiting and looking for the right time, I was getting comfortable with the distance that I was maintaining with even my day to day activities, let alone this blog. I felt the Anxiety of starting something and then not living upto it 100%, The pressure of maintaining something consistently, also, it was quite overwhelming as to I din’t even know where to start. At times my mind would freeze and I had no energy of handling any failures.

But I realized it had to change. Because time is flying.

To make some serious life changes, I first had to overcome the excuses I was using to hold on to all the clutter in my life – the physical clutter and the emotional clutter.
And I happened to come across something that I could relate to at this point in time and something that made absolute sense,

“An Excuse-Free Life is what you need when you find yourself delaying things.
You can let these excuses keep you insulated with clutter, both physical and emotional, or you can call
your own bluff and make way for more freedom, connection, and success. Best of all, if you sell what
you no longer want you can use that cash and new-found space to help propel you toward the kind of life
you want – one rich with experience, relationships, and free time.”

And from now on, it doesn’t really matter how far this blog goes or how beneficial it will prove to be who may or may not have the same problems like i do, I will keep this going.
I’m all on it.
This is kind of my journal now which everyone and anyone is welcome to read.



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“Your life deserves a standing ovation”

We always talk about having a happy ending. But what about living a happy life? We tend to forget or ignore the fact that in the constant struggle to achieve a happy ending, We miss out on the opportunities we have today.

I can go on and on on this topic but here’s a video that will definitely make you think if you’re
really doing something with your LIFE.

Everyone of us is looking for happiness.
When we ask someone what their goal in life is or what makes them work so hard, we may get a list of things they want to achieve in life. Maybe a car that they want, or a big house to live in or just to be rich and successful. I wasnt any different. I had my list of things that i wanted so badly and I did work hard for it. But there was a sudden change in my life and now I realize how hollow my life has been till now. We believe having all the things we want will make us happy. Its obvious that people say that Happier people tend to live longer, healthier and even have better relationships. But the question is, Why are there still so many miserable people out there? And I can say that out of experience that my professional life has always costed me my personal life. And I’m sure I’m not the only one
to think like that. We’ve become so Materialistic that we ignore the reason why we belong here. We have become so business minded that we apply Terms & conditions** in our real life too.”I’ll be happy when I get this job” “I’ll be happy when I get this car” or even “I’ll be happy if I get to buy this dress” I’ve used these lines so many times in the past and I totally think what a waste it was.


We get so busy admiring and wanting the flashy things that celebrities own that we forget the hurdle that
goes behind it.

“Money doesn’t always guarantee happiness. Atleast long term happiness”

The reason why we work harder is because what we have is never truly enough.
This post or the video you just saw is not about telling you to not work hard or not earn enough
or to stop wanting the things you want, but just to make you aware that don’t miss the moment in this
tug of war or race of the “society”. 10527458_699603100095537_2180450307120759695_n

We all need to have a spiritual awakening and that is only possible when you stop seeking happiness
outside of you in the outer world and start looking for it inside of you.

There is a lot that we can discuss on that but that’s a topic for another post 🙂


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Iconic Life – the smartphone addiction


"I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots" - Albert Einstein
“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots” – Albert Einstein

I gave a thought of writing the very first post on this particular topic and and decided to ask a sensible friend about it and, Amrita C, 27, US – says “oh I cant live without my phone, I would be lost”, the instant and impulse reaction.

2 weeks ago, When I had the first time of bearing the real world without my Smartphone.
and yes, it was tough. I go to phases in life when I just want to isolate myself from people.
and its time again. Though I’ve been known to be this girl who likes to be in focus all the time, I still
love to have my own sanctum. And that’s how I exactly felt when i first thought of switching the damn thing OFF!
Not for a couple of hours but for days. And so I did, I actually switched my phone off, but believe me,
a few minutes later, i started feeling edgy. I started getting anxious. And so I thought maybe I should switch it on
and just get rid of all the easy mode of communication, and that’s the instant messaging apps.
I uninstalled every single messaging app. I somehow managed to stay away from these apps for a week but I have to admit that i terribly missed those apps.
I dint really care who must have tried contacting me through this app but I just felt so incomplete without it. Its like these apps sorta say “install us, because we want you to get addicted”
And the mission is accomplished in no time.


    Heck, I don’t even remember the last time I actually read a book. No, I read everyday   but I think its been 2 months that I actually held a book in my hand.
A book with pages. Book made of paper. I found myself buying books online. And when I entered Crossword with a friend the other day… I realized how distant I had become from the real world.
I had almost forgotten that I can physically go out, buy a book, sit in a coffee shop and hang out with myself.

The other day I hit the gym WITHOUT my phone. I decided to do that because I see people working out WITH their cell phones. I was shocked.
I see people on treadmill, talking on the phone. I see people cycling, texting the entire time… and even when the management plays pretty okay songs,
most of them still want to listen to the music on their phone.
and I was totally ridiculed with that. I never carry my phone with me when I work out but as soon I am done, the first thing I do is, check my phone.

So, the day I decided to leave the phone at home, after I left the gym and went out with a friend, I sat in the car feeling anxious and even found myself having a physical reaction to the fact that
I did not have my phone with me. I felt restless and sick.

But that is when I actually felt scared. Why on earth do I feel naked without a cell phone? Why do I get this “out of place” feeling without this _MG_6655 (1)small piece of technology?

And then I remembered all the times when i was so much into my phone that I dint care about the people around me.
I remember when I was meeting some friends at home after a long time, There were 4 of us, and My Dad was passing by the room and he suddenly stopped, I looked at him
wondering what made him stare at us and he said “look at you guys! all 4 of you meeting after weeks or months and everyone has a cell phone in hand not talking to eachother”
He was amused and shocked at the same time, and to be honest so were we. We had friends right next to us and we were still busy with our phones. Well, to be precise 3 of us had phones in our hand and one friend was busy surfing the net on laptop. But that’s again technology and the sight was insane.

But unfortunately, that realization dint last for too long. Because even like a month ago I met my BFF and we dint really have much to talk. I also feel checking your cell phone is contagious, I’ve noticed when one person checks their phone it makes the other person do the same.

This point is illustrated clearly in the YouTube video “I forgot my Iphone”, an exaggerated but exact reflection of our current social behavior


They say “Our phones fall, we panic. Our friends fall, we laugh.”

And i guess its time we ask ourselves

“Have we let this Phone/Smartphone addiction go too far? and How and when is it going to stop?”

Otherwise soon enough we would all just be emotionless retards with technology ruling us.

I would like to know your thoughts on this. Do you feel dependent or addicted to phones? What steps can we take to resolve our addiction?


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