Category: Lifestyle

What’s your Score?

People often unknowingly settle for less than what they deserve or actually deep down in their heart truly wish for. It happens to a lot of us. We restrict ourselves from looking for what is right for us with the fear of being disappointed. Instead of exploring and hunting for the right thing, we try and compromise, hold back or even mould our desires to what’s been offered to us. We just accept life the way it is. Which is not really bad for some people, but you might, just might, in the future think of it as a waste of time and effort and would make you wish you probably could have had better.
It’s only when the temporary happiness leaves, do we realize that it was just another mean of plain disappointment. What remains then? Regret!!!
It is always better though to realize it before it’s too late.
Everything else can still be fixed but the one thing that can never ever be replaced is the (wasted) time. No one would want to say “I wish I had…” or “I wish I hadn’t…” when they grow old.
You can never go back and study hard and change your high school grades.
You can never go back and choose a different stream.
You can never go back and undo the fights and mistakes
You can never go back and not meet or associate with certain people.
You can never go back and select the right friend’s.
You can never go back and ditch the wrong friend’s.
You can never go back and create or build an image.
You can never go back and make that first impression.
You can never go back and untell the secret’s.
You can never go back and keep certain promises.
You can never go back and build the trust you lost.
You can never go back and destroy bad memories.
You can never go back and re-live good memories.
You can never go back and fight with the one’s who deserved.
You can never go back and make up with someone who deserved.
You can never go back and share some feelings.
You can never go back and hide some feelings.
You can never go back and take the chances you didn’t take.
You can never go back and refuse/reject the offers you accepted.
You can never go back and say the right things.
You can never go back and unsay the wrong words.
And, you can never go back and refuse to GO BACK!!!
TIME really is precious. All we have is now.
Make the right choices, choose the correct people. Listen to your heart when it says something’s right and also listen to your gut feeling when it hints something isn’t. We always get the signs. Listen to your inner voice. And if you still feel confused then choose to play safe. As life is a game which surely has negative scoring. 

Here are 4 criteria’s on which you can score your life:

  • Health ___
  • Work ___
  • Relationships ___
  • Activity (Hobbies)___
1 Regret = 1 negative score or Minus 1
1 Satisfaction = Plus 1
And if you find satisfaction in doing the wrong thing, then it’s definitely a FOUL. That’s when you find yourself being stuck. You can not go ahead, nor can you go back. And you find yourself saying “I’m working so hard on my health or relationships or work but I’m not getting anywhere” That’s simply because you’re trying to find “Satisfaction” or “Happiness” in the wrong job or relationship or people or just things in general. 
If you’re among the lucky one’s who don’t need to put that extra effort or go out of your way and still doing okay, well good job then. You are on the right track 🙂 If not, that’s okay too. Keep exploring and see what make’s you smile and make sure you do it at least once a day. Something that inspires you. 
Remember, it’s not a race. It is YOUR life and life is Single Player game. You don’t have or need a competition.
Play your own game, keep your own pace and break your own highest score 🙂 <3

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“Your life deserves a standing ovation”

We always talk about having a happy ending. But what about living a happy life? We tend to forget or ignore the fact that in the constant struggle to achieve a happy ending, We miss out on the opportunities we have today.

I can go on and on on this topic but here’s a video that will definitely make you think if you’re
really doing something with your LIFE.

Everyone of us is looking for happiness.
When we ask someone what their goal in life is or what makes them work so hard, we may get a list of things they want to achieve in life. Maybe a car that they want, or a big house to live in or just to be rich and successful. I wasnt any different. I had my list of things that i wanted so badly and I did work hard for it. But there was a sudden change in my life and now I realize how hollow my life has been till now. We believe having all the things we want will make us happy. Its obvious that people say that Happier people tend to live longer, healthier and even have better relationships. But the question is, Why are there still so many miserable people out there? And I can say that out of experience that my professional life has always costed me my personal life. And I’m sure I’m not the only one
to think like that. We’ve become so Materialistic that we ignore the reason why we belong here. We have become so business minded that we apply Terms & conditions** in our real life too.”I’ll be happy when I get this job” “I’ll be happy when I get this car” or even “I’ll be happy if I get to buy this dress” I’ve used these lines so many times in the past and I totally think what a waste it was.

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We get so busy admiring and wanting the flashy things that celebrities own that we forget the hurdle that
goes behind it.

“Money doesn’t always guarantee happiness. Atleast long term happiness”

The reason why we work harder is because what we have is never truly enough.
This post or the video you just saw is not about telling you to not work hard or not earn enough
or to stop wanting the things you want, but just to make you aware that don’t miss the moment in this
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We all need to have a spiritual awakening and that is only possible when you stop seeking happiness
outside of you in the outer world and start looking for it inside of you.

There is a lot that we can discuss on that but that’s a topic for another post 🙂


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Iconic Life – the smartphone addiction

 

"I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots" - Albert Einstein
“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots” – Albert Einstein

I gave a thought of writing the very first post on this particular topic and and decided to ask a sensible friend about it and, Amrita C, 27, US – says “oh I cant live without my phone, I would be lost”, the instant and impulse reaction.

2 weeks ago, When I had the first time of bearing the real world without my Smartphone.
and yes, it was tough. I go to phases in life when I just want to isolate myself from people.
and its time again. Though I’ve been known to be this girl who likes to be in focus all the time, I still
love to have my own sanctum. And that’s how I exactly felt when i first thought of switching the damn thing OFF!
Not for a couple of hours but for days. And so I did, I actually switched my phone off, but believe me,
a few minutes later, i started feeling edgy. I started getting anxious. And so I thought maybe I should switch it on
and just get rid of all the easy mode of communication, and that’s the instant messaging apps.
I uninstalled every single messaging app. I somehow managed to stay away from these apps for a week but I have to admit that i terribly missed those apps.
I dint really care who must have tried contacting me through this app but I just felt so incomplete without it. Its like these apps sorta say “install us, because we want you to get addicted”
And the mission is accomplished in no time.

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    Heck, I don’t even remember the last time I actually read a book. No, I read everyday   but I think its been 2 months that I actually held a book in my hand.
A book with pages. Book made of paper. I found myself buying books online. And when I entered Crossword with a friend the other day… I realized how distant I had become from the real world.
I had almost forgotten that I can physically go out, buy a book, sit in a coffee shop and hang out with myself.

The other day I hit the gym WITHOUT my phone. I decided to do that because I see people working out WITH their cell phones. I was shocked.
I see people on treadmill, talking on the phone. I see people cycling, texting the entire time… and even when the management plays pretty okay songs,
most of them still want to listen to the music on their phone.
and I was totally ridiculed with that. I never carry my phone with me when I work out but as soon I am done, the first thing I do is, check my phone.

So, the day I decided to leave the phone at home, after I left the gym and went out with a friend, I sat in the car feeling anxious and even found myself having a physical reaction to the fact that
I did not have my phone with me. I felt restless and sick.

But that is when I actually felt scared. Why on earth do I feel naked without a cell phone? Why do I get this “out of place” feeling without this _MG_6655 (1)small piece of technology?

And then I remembered all the times when i was so much into my phone that I dint care about the people around me.
I remember when I was meeting some friends at home after a long time, There were 4 of us, and My Dad was passing by the room and he suddenly stopped, I looked at him
wondering what made him stare at us and he said “look at you guys! all 4 of you meeting after weeks or months and everyone has a cell phone in hand not talking to eachother”
He was amused and shocked at the same time, and to be honest so were we. We had friends right next to us and we were still busy with our phones. Well, to be precise 3 of us had phones in our hand and one friend was busy surfing the net on laptop. But that’s again technology and the sight was insane.

But unfortunately, that realization dint last for too long. Because even like a month ago I met my BFF and we dint really have much to talk. I also feel checking your cell phone is contagious, I’ve noticed when one person checks their phone it makes the other person do the same.

This point is illustrated clearly in the YouTube video “I forgot my Iphone”, an exaggerated but exact reflection of our current social behavior

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They say “Our phones fall, we panic. Our friends fall, we laugh.”

And i guess its time we ask ourselves

“Have we let this Phone/Smartphone addiction go too far? and How and when is it going to stop?”

Otherwise soon enough we would all just be emotionless retards with technology ruling us.

I would like to know your thoughts on this. Do you feel dependent or addicted to phones? What steps can we take to resolve our addiction?

 

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